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by Annie Yorty @annieyorty
This week we welcome guest blogger, Annie Yorty. Annie experienced some unexpected news when her daughter was born, but she shares how God has redeemed all her expectations in her new book. The link for the book is below along with her social media links. Please welcome Annie and check out this new book that can encourage you through any kind of difficulty.
Here's Annie:
Thirty-three years ago, the arrival of a tiny infant
demolished my carefully constructed expectations.
“It looks like your baby has Down syndrome.”
In one split second, that pronouncement from the
doctor shook my world, yet the implications have taken years to sink in. In
fact, I’m still realizing them today.
In the nine months before Alyssa was born, I studied
the baby book named, appropriately, What to Expect When You’re Expecting.
Guess what? My pregnancy more or less fell in line with what the author said to
expect. I also garnered wisdom from more experienced moms. They recounted all
the gory details of their birth experiences, including water breaking, hours of
labor, episiotomies, epidurals, pushing, C-sections, husbands fainting, Apgar
scores, and more.
All the dramas ended the same—a healthy, happy baby.
No one I knew had ever received a diagnosis more serious than a couple days of
jaundice.
I figured my birthing details may vary, but I expected
the same result.
Though prospective parents don’t think much about it,
they expect a great deal more than a happy and healthy baby. One day their
child will walk and talk. They already envision the first day of school,
sports, dance, or perhaps playing a musical instrument. Out in the future, of
course, their child will graduate from high school, maybe study at college, and
then begin a satisfying career. Naturally, marriage will follow. While the
thought of grandchildren doesn’t float to the surface until much later, that
seed of expectation also lies buried in the hearts of new parents.
In fact, most of these expectations are never considered, much less voiced, when the only evidence of your baby is a swelling stomach, morning sickness, and the occasional tiny toes prodding the kidneys. Nevertheless, they lie below the surface much like the bulk of an iceberg lies unseen beneath frigid ocean waters.
1. Lessons from the Titanic
I hesitate to compare my child’s birth to the Titanic
hitting an iceberg, but I find four valuable parallels. The comparison is
actually more about my expectations crashing into reality than about Alyssa
herself.
(Please note that Alyssa would be tickled with my
comparisons as she was once obsessed with everything Titanic.)
2. The collision came without warning.
While it didn’t turn out so well for the occupants of
the ocean liner, I happen to think little to no warning of changed expectations
is a good thing. Why should we spend our emotional energy worrying about
something that might not happen? Worry will surely steal the joy from the
present moment.
We should, however, always acknowledge the Lord’s
sovereign control of every aspect of our lives and hold our expectations
loosely.
What you ought to say is, “If the Lord
wants us to, we will live and do this or that.”
(James 4:15 NLT)
3. The crash dramatically changed the course
of lives.
The Titanic catastrophe left no one unscathed. Some
died. Some lost loved ones. All lived life colored by the trauma. We’ve all
experienced a relatively mild intrusion of reality on our expectations, but
sometimes the collision takes on epic proportions. Nothing in life remains the
same. We suspect the very foundation on which to rebuild has been obliterated.
I am the Lord, and I do not change. That is why you descendants of Jacob are not already destroyed. (Malachi 3:6 NLT)
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There were casualties.
More than 1,500 people died on that fateful April day
in 1912. Changed expectations also produce casualties. Sometimes a dream
completely dies. Other times, a plan must be reconfigured.
Consider Job’s situation. In one fell swoop, he lost
all his livestock, sheep, camels, farm hands, shepherds, and servants. Every
one of his children also died on the same day. When he woke up that morning, he
had been rich in property and blessed with many children. By sundown, all he
had was a wife, and she didn’t seem to bring much consolation. We can learn
from his response to significant loss.
He said, “I came naked from my mother’s
womb, and I will be naked when I leave. The Lord gave me what I had, and the
Lord has taken it away. Praise the name of the Lord!”
(Job 1:21 NLT)
4. There were survivors.
Miraculously, rescuers fished a third of the passengers
and crew from the Titanic out of the ocean after the run-in with the iceberg.
We, too, may unearth dreams that survived the pummeling of reality. Better yet,
God always sprouts new and improved opportunities from the wreckage. If we
raise our eyes and look around, we will perceive God inviting us to receive
more and more of Him in every situation.
For I am about to do something new. See, I
have already begun! Do you not see it? I will make a pathway through the
wilderness. I will create rivers in the dry wasteland.
(Isaiah 43:19 NLT)
Redemption from the Rubble
God knows best which of your expectations need to be adjusted and which need to be replaced. In the process, I hope we never get tired of hearing and believing God’s promise to bring good out of difficulties.
And we know that God causes everything to
work together for the good of those who love God and are called according to his
purpose for them. (Romans 8:28 NLT)
How has God used a collision of your expectations and
reality to increase your trust in Him?
Joyfully,
Annie
Copyright ©2023 Annie Yorty
